The Blame Stops Here!

For anything bad that happens to us we tend, almost reflexively, to blame others for that. However, for all the good things that also happen to us we gratefully take the full credits, unable or mostly unwilling to appreciate the possible role of others in that. For example, when I slip on a wet spot of the tiled floor I reflexively thank God and my protecting angels for preventing a fall that could've been serious, if I am of the appreciating type. But someone of the blaming type would instantly burst into a furious verbal spree, blaming the carelessness of someone spilling water on the floor and going even to the extent of alleging a conspiracy to kill him or her. 

Some people are always in the search for a blameworthy person to pass on the blame for his/her concerned failures or mishaps. This is despite knowing for sure that the supposed failures or mishaps were creations of his/her own, entirely. 

It's really unfortunate that most people spend whole of their lives blaming others for everything. It never helps them in any way, it only makes them lead miserable and cantankerous lives. Wise people always tell us to sincerely acknowledge the fact that all our successes and failures remain our responsibilities, ours own only. However, I am not trying to moonlight as a preacher or adviser. I am only trying very hard to abide by, myself. So, we should always concentrate on the antonyms of 'blame' and not try to go on finding where to put the blame. Amen! 

Why Envy?

Envy is a universal human characteristic, but the reasons for doing so seem to be very personal and often unpredictable.

We know a couple who has no money stacked up, no wealth to hide, no vehicles and not even a owned house--normally the reasons for envy. They live simply, dress simply and go about doing things for their cherished goals in life without malice or ill will to anybody. Of course, with less money they try to do the best--dress in a decent way choosing the right colors and combinations, they eat in a healthy way at affordable best, they go to movies and eat out to enjoy life as they can afford and they always love their dear ones and try to take care--again, as best as they can afford.

But dear ones keep them in constant watch and envy everything they do or say. This attitude causes them tremendous pain and grief and they cannot make anyone understand their feeling.

They do not understand WHY.